Being a parent is by no means an easy task. The key to raising a child who is an all rounder is to establish a solid support system at home so that the child grows up satisfied with his/her achievements. I find this idea extremely challenging.
When I started my parenting journey, I questioned if this was all a big mistake. However, I slowly began to realise that I was seeing it from a different angle. The God I know doesn’t make mistakes. Since God blessed me with children, he would have also given me everything I needed to bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
As a child, particularly during the times when I was alone, sad or depressed, I questioned my faith a lot. Recollecting my childhood, I wondered what I needed to do as a parent to prepare my children as they headed into the world. I stumbled onto an online site that stressed on how to build a solid foundation to hold the kids in God’s steadfast love. Here are a few pointers that I picked up.
Truth #1: God is their creator and father and loves each of them unconditionally
God is their father who loves them in a perfect way. He has a vested interest in them and that connection can never be broken. Knowing that when they feel as though their earthly parents let them down, being able to speak to the Lord with who has a perfect, unconditional love for them and who promises to always listen and answer their prayers can be the most comforting thing in the world.
Truth #2: Learn to be happy
God did not send them here to be miserable. He did send them here to learn, which can sometimes lead to misery through painful lessons. In the long run, he wants them to find joy in their learning and to be grateful for their trials and difficult times. Knowing they have a “cheerleader” who wants them to be happy and find joy will help them to do so.
Truth #3: Tap on tools and resources to make them better
He didn’t just let them loose into a crazy world without any help. He provided lots of tools for them. He gave them scriptures full of life lessons. He provided them with places of worship to gather with those who have similar beliefs. He gave them the gift of prayer and the sacraments and the opportunity to speak to Him anytime when they are troubled.
Reading these truths about our loving God is an eye opener for me to choose my parenting style. The realisation that our children are not ours but they belong to God and that they are given as a reward is humbling as well as reassuring. As the Psalmist says in
Psalm 127:3 Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward.
I also learn that I need to change myself to be a parent and that I must behave the way God wants me to. I have to keep applying these truths to my life because children learn from observing their parents.
I pray that, in a world that changes its teachings at every whim, our children are taught to place their trust in God and that He alone remains the rock on which they will stand.