Working as an ENT surgeon makes me come in contact with a lot of patients suffering from head and neck cancers. Many of them are middle-aged and have far advanced cancers thus having very few years ahead of them. On spending time talking to them, most have regrets. Some of the common ones include:
- I wish I pursued my dreams and aspirations and not what others expected of me.
- I wish I had spent more time with my family and friends.
- I wish I had the courage to express my feelings and speak my mind.
- I wish I had not fallen prey to this addiction (smoking, pan chewing) and ruined my life.
I am working with a life coach and through a conversation with him, I recently learned that I am a self-critical person. I had never thought about what I say to myself on a daily basis and how it has changed me over the years. Once I paid attention, the soundtrack sounded a lot like this:
“You’re not doing enough; you’re not meant to be happy; you will never fit in; you’re not required…You’re not good enough”.
Don’t get me wrong. I was living a good life and so this confession will probably shock most of my friends as I share this. I rarely showed darkness or a feeling of void in my interactions. This feeling led to wanting to do more and more and to some it appeared as a personality trait of “one-upmanship”. Perhaps, somewhere deep down, a very fearful part of me believed all these words to be true. Continue reading
Our very own ‘Goencho Saib‘
Born in the Xavier Castle in the Navarre region of what is now Spain in 1506, Francis Xavier began his adult life as a scholar in the University of Paris. Francis was an exceptional student, a champion athlete and a magnetic personality. Just before he was ready to step out of the University of Paris crowned with honours and fame, he was greatly influenced by Ignatius of Loyola, who encouraged him to become a priest.
On August 15, 1534, Francis Xavier made vows of poverty, chastity, and obedience and was ordained on June 24, 1537. Pope Paul III approved the formation of their order in 1540, which became The Society of Jesus, today popularly known as ‘Jesuits’. Continue reading
We live in such a fast-paced world, that everybody we meet seems busy doing something or trying to get somewhere. Most of us barely have time for ourselves let alone for others and certainly not for God. We are so busy working, trying to succeed and please everybody around us that we are left with little if any time to please God.
As a young surgeon, time is of utmost importance to me; so is my relationship with God. Thus, I ensure that I find ways to squeeze everything that is important to me into the day, without forgetting time for prayer and God. Continue reading